When you are first going through a divorce, you are filled with an incredible amount of questions. Am I going to be able to make it own my own financially, how are the kids going to handle the situation, how long will it take to get on my feet and on and on and on. The uncertainty of the situation can be extremely overwhelming and leave you a bit shell shocked. But eventually, after many weeks of worrying and even more nights of crying, you begin to see a glimmer at the end of the tunnel. You slowly start to realize that you can make it on your own, your kids will be fine and that single life as a 40 something women is tough and at times frightening but with a little patience and grit, you can conquer this newly undiscovered world.
Unfortunately, many of us feel the need to mask our pain and loneliness, because we feel as if we are alone in this journey. We feel as if no one understands what we are going thru. And this is the farthest thing from the truth. There are thousands of people, men and women, who are broken, insecure and frightened, who desperately just want to find there center and new normal. And with every new tortured soul I meet, I learn something about myself and my new world. And this is why I feel the need to chronicle my journey and share it with the world, so others can see that the struggle is universal. It doesn’t matter your gender, race, financial class or background, we all feel the exact same things.
So, with that being said..
I will be writing about the girl’s nights out, the unsolicited Facebook messages from complete strangers, the loneliness of not being with your kids, the frustration of financial freedom and the struggle to redefine yourself as a single person in a world of judgmental people. Please join me on this journey of self-discovery and hopefully we can navigate this crazy life together.