Forgiving yourself for the New year

“Without forgiveness and love, you will live with resentment, bitterness, malice and strife which result in more pain. You can never love without forgiving. Forgiveness deepens your ability to love and frees you from pain.”
                                                                                                                             ― Kemi Sogunle

Remember that thing you did 5 years ago? That really stupid mistake you made? The decision that you are still beating yourself up over?

Well, Stop it!

We all make ridiculous mistakes. We all do! Believe me. And I have made more than my share. Sometimes, I feel as if I can’t make a right one to save my life. But we all feel this way. Maybe, you said something in the heat of the moment that changed the entire dynamic of an important relationship. Maybe, you drank too much one night and slept with someone that you would have never ever given a second thought too in a sober state. Or maybe you did something to someone that you regret every moment of every day.

But it really doesn’t matter at this point. At this point, this is no possible way to change what you did, no matter how hard you wish or how long you pray. And certainly, beating yourself up  over it won’t make a difference either. As a matter of fact, all of that guilt and self loathing will only make you sick, bitter and angry. And that in turn colors every decision and every moment of your life. It makes you weary of living. It makes you frightened to live your life. It makes you, essentially, a prisoner of your own thoughts and self hate.

So now matter how you do it. No matter how hard and frightening it is, you have to forgive yourself so you can move on and live a full life. So you can move on to make new mistakes. So you can live your life without the fear of screwing up, without the fear self hate and with 100% certainly that no matter what you do, you will still love yourself in the morning.

Peace, harmony and self love.



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